After the funeral

There are no strict rules about what happens after a funeral but on this page we share some ideas about what might be right for you. Remember, our team is always on hand, including after the funeral, so please do get in touch if you would like to talk things through.

We know that dealing with the raw emotions of losing a loved one doesn’t disappear, but it is important to know that the funeral team are still on hand after the funeral.  Our bereavement support services are here for you as long as you need them. We can also help you to plan a lasting memorial for your loved one.

Holding a wake

A wake is traditionally held directly after a funeral service, bringing family and friends together. It’s an opportunity for people share memories and remember an individual's life.

If you’d like to hold a wake you will want to think about the location, how you’ll invite family and friends, and whether you’ll be providing refreshments.

If you want to talk through your options, our teams know the local area well, meaning we can suggest suitable locations..

Lasting memorials

We can also help you to create a lasting memorial for your loved one. Our highly skilled stonemasons at H.L Perfitt recognise that creating a fitting memorial not only provides a lasting tribute to your loved one’s life, but is also one of the last gifts that you can give to them.

Our award-winning craftsmen create each memorial with care and respect, with designs ranging from the traditional to modern.

Settling your loved one’s estate

If your loved one had a will, it will specify one or more people who should serve as an executor or personal representative. They are responsible for making sure all creditors are paid, assets are distributed to family and friends, and relevant tax returns are submitted.

It's possible that your loved one passed away without leaving a will, in which case the law will typically indicate who is responsible and will inherit the person’s estate. This will usually be a surviving spouse or a close relative.

You should make contact with your loved one's financial advisor as soon as possible to see whether any matters require immediate attention.

You may also need to cancel some, if not all, of the following day-to-day orders and contracts:

  • Standing orders
  • Direct Debits
  • Newspapers and other subscriptions
  • Milk deliveries
  • Telephone and internet connection
  • Mobile phone contract(s)
  • Bin collection
  • Television licence
  • Postal services (or arrange for re-direction)

A member of your local funeral team will be more than happy to meet with you and talk you through these tasks.